Howard,
A
request
With
both boys in college, need I say I have college bills coming out my ass. I have
set the due dates up on these bills to be on Fridays. It would help
tremendously if you could arrange for us to get your contribution on the Friday
of the weeks you send it. The school is not interested in stories of
un-received support checks, they want their money on the day it's due. Also a
portion of your contribution each month goes directly to your sons to help pay
any extra bills they have accumulated. Parking, telephone, school supplies etc.
So, you see they await your check as anxiously as the school and I do. Would
greatly appreciate any effort you can make.
Thank
you.
ps.
You sent me a note once that stated you have written more checks to me in your
lifetime than anyone else. To this I reply, "Look what you got for your
money". Hang in there, it’s almost over.
Lynn
Lynn;
A
reply.
Sorry
to hear that your mail is now being delivered via your ass, must be a real
problem when you're out in public.
As
you've pointed out, you set the due dates for whatever bills are now causing
you troubles on
Fridays
and I don't ever remember being asked, or included in on this decision. Now you
have no trouble asking me to be responsible for your decisions. Oh well, not
much ever changes with you.
Here's
a better idea.
Have
each of the boys establish a checking account at a Bank in Brockport and I will
deposit $120 every other week. I will continue to send you your $25 alimony
every other week as well. You could then contribute your share into their
accounts (electronically) and place the responsibility for paying their bills
onto them, where it belongs.
Don't
bother sending me a letter telling me why this won't work for you.
Howard
ps.
I'm not even going to waste words on you in response to your ridiculous
comments as to what I've gotten for my money.
About
a week after the previous letter was sent, I received another from Lynn. It
included a copy of a piece of our 20 year old divorce agreement that stated
"the defendant (that's me) agrees to pay to the wife $60 per child, per
week, directly, and on every Thursday of the week".
Now,
her point was that that language, 20 years old or not, written for the
protection of two infants was still relevant, and therefore THE reason why I
must continue to do so, for, as she had described, "bills were now coming
out of her ass".
I
threw the letter in the garbage.
About
a week later, Jason called and told me he had gone to Eastman Savings and Loan,
not a bank in the town where he was going to college ( as I had suggested) and
opened an account. He gave me the account number so I could make arrangements
to have money directly deposited, as I had said I would. He also said "I
don't know why we can't just leave things the way they were and how come you
and Mom can't just work this out? Why do we have to get involved?"
I
said to him "Don't you think you should be paying your own bills and know
what's going on?"
After
a few moments he said "No. I don't"
I
went to Eastman Savings and Loan the following Monday morning and made
arrangements for the direct deposit and was informed that this account was, in
fact, a savings, not checking account. Amazing way for the boys to pay college
bills. In a telephone call with Joshua a few days later he told me the ATM
cards should arrive soon.
So,
I guess the plan is for them to withdraw cash to pay their bills; perhaps
they'll get money orders to do so. Stay tuned on this; I'm sure more will
follow.
About
a month later Jason called me up and said, " I can't believe your fuckin
over your own kids?"
I
said to him "$60 each, per child, per week, every other week come to $240.
Been that way since 1979".
Jason
said "You're short $50."
I
said, "No, that's alimony, it's not yours, it's your mothers".
Jason
said "Are you going to give it to me?"
I
said "No".
Jason
hung up.